I have long been fascinated by the power of words and thoughts to affect our lives. As always, I am on a journey to find peace within myself, which is why I became a hypnotherapist to begin with.
Have you ever been sitting in your car, deep in thought? Do you ever feel the tension around your eyes and forehead as you try to make sense of what just happened, or reflecting on conversations or other parts of your day? Do you ever wonder why is it that sometimes when things are going well for you something always happens to throw you off balance? Do you ever ask yourself: What am I doing wrong?
We all have these moments of reflection and the wonder of life events that are seemingly out of our control. But are the experiences and how we feel about them truly out of our control? Well…my answer as a hypnotherapist is “yes and no.”
I am often asked how I can be so sure that my thoughts and words have this power. The answer is simple: because it has never failed me yet. It's always true, when I think of something, say it or do it, the result is always what I wanted. Whatever I think or say is powerful as it always creates an emotional reaction.
Although we cannot always control what we experience, we do have a lot of control regarding how we respond with our thoughts and therefore our emotions. All feeling comes from thought and our judgments about occurrences.
What I think and say about myself, others, and the world around me moves me ever closer to the truth of my being. The more I pay attention to my thoughts and words, the easier it becomes for me to recognize when my thinking is distorted. When I notice that a particular thought or word isn't serving me well anymore, then with an intention of self-compassionate curiosity (not judgment), I can explore why that's happening.
I have a confession to make. There have been times when I was living with the delusion that my thoughts and words are not powerful. That they are inconsequential. But it turns out, this isn't true at all! Since thoughts and words and judgments can affect how your experience life events, then they are ALL powerful.
My thoughts and words can be used for good or evil - whatever I choose them to do. And in truth, they always work together as one unified force - like two sides of the same coin: One cannot exist without the other. Yet, I can observe, without judgment, and gently adjust my thoughts and words to a more positive energy.
So when I'm using my thoughts and words for good, then lightness follows me wherever I go; but if instead, I use my thoughts and words for self-destruction, negativity, or even judging others or events, then darkness lingers around me close behind throughout each day following suit—much like an ominous heaviness or dread that I can’t shake.
What would happen if I stopped relying on my thoughts and words to define me? What would happen if I could stop the inner dialogue that's been going on in my head for most of my life?
I realized it was time for a change. Perhaps you are realizing it’s time for a change also.
A few months ago, while walking through the park near home, I sat down at a bench and watched as children ran along the paths with their parents. It all seemed so simple: they laughed together, played together, talked about what they wanted to do next, and then did it. They were living in the moment without any expectations or worries. The best part is this wasn't some far away land—it was right here in my own backyard!
Remember the old saying: “Wherever You Go, There You Are!” So it doesn’t matter if you’re here or there…..your inner dialogue and perceptions can be changed and you can feel marvelous whenever you decide to and regardless of outside circumstances.